Ok, so I have a 1 yr old with my fiance’ right now. I am 23, and we have been together for almost 6 years and pretty much grew up together since i was about 11 years old. I am a full time mother of my 1 yr old, and fiance got laid off a few months ago and has yet been able to find a job around here. I am actually in school part time for the CNA program around here too M-W. So he is at home watching the baby and doing …. whatever…

Well, I just found out that I am pregnant again…about 6 weeks along. I don’t really know how it happened because all the other times I wasn’t using protection and took us 4 months to have our first planned daughter. Now that I am using protection, I find out I am preggo.

The first thing that comes out my husbands mouth is that he doesn’t think that we should have this baby and we should put him/her up for adoption. Financially yes, I think that I could handle this and get a job and finish out this 10-12 week program and get a job or find something else. I have friends that work at taco bell that have 3-4 kids that support themselves. His parents have been greatly helping us out with our rent and whatnot and diapers here and there until he finds something while I am in school. So, tomorrow the first thing I am going to do is forget about him trying to find a job since he hasn’t tried because he is a computer programmer and doesn’t want to do anything else..and don’t get me wrong there really isn’t nothing else out there around here that’s hiring. Even some fast food places!!

I really do not agree with the whole adoption thing and most def will not get an abortion. But honestly, I do not feel that I could just give my child away. When I found out I was preggo a few days ago..my heart dropped….and it was pretty much a miracle that I "all of a sudden" got preggo since it took so long last time.

He says that it would cause too much stress on us, that we couldn’t afford another one, and he wants to adopt and that I need a reality check. In my eyes, this was both of our doings, and honestly I don’t mind working 4 jobs while going to school to get ready for this other child. I could not have my first daughter growing up and watching her knowing that my other child is out with another family, even though financially they might be set. But I feel like if i do this not wanting this as my decision and his, I would resent him for it, and return this end up a bad relationship. I can’t get him to understand that if we both even had part time jobs we could do this…and if we got help then take it! I was on WIC the whole time with my first daughter and pretty much all I had to pay for were diapers…and wipes…

Yes I know this might put stress on us, but I just feel like it would be wrong of me to just give up this child because he thinks we can’t handle it. I have read up on adoption forums…and I cry before I even get half way through..I cant bare the thought of me carrying this child for so long..and just giving it away

Please help…

Please help. Im two weeks pregnant, and i cant have an abortion because i cannot in any way tell my mum or a close gardian about this at all! How do i get rid of it without an abortion and without seriously injuring myself?

Firstyly – before anyone gives me the "you shouldnt of had sex in the first place" talk, i know, and i know what i did was wrong, but it was my first time and i truely regret it.. so please dont judge me :/

secondly – I know im killing a baby and some people dont agree with it, i dont either tbh, but my parents and family would go mad, they aren’t the sweet and inocent type if you understand?

- i also know an abortion is the best way. and the most sensible way. Tbh i have no idea where the nearest clinic is for this to happen and i cant get there, and also think i have to be with an adult and give my name and everything?

Im sorry if this shas offended anyone at all ;/ i know what im doing or trying to do is bad.. i do not in any way agree with it myself.. but its something i must do… im just not ready..

if anyone has any advice please email or message me…

if you have msn add me ;
bambilea@hotmail.co.uk (please tell me that your part of this if you do)

( also i understand if anyone thinks its wrong to place my msn address on a public internet website for the world to see, but if anyone scares me or anything you will be blocked, reported AND deleted)

i just need some advice…

Thankyyou <3

How come humans can’t get apes pregnant? Aren’t we 99% the same? Shouldn’t we be allowed to have children with them?

We’ve tried about 3 times (not consecutive months for various uninteresting reasons) with no luck. August is my ideal pregnant month because I’m a teacher and a May baby would be ideal. I’m temping and using OPKs to predict the right days, but what are some tricks and tips to increase our odds?

And don’t say "have sex," because I get the basics.
Naenae, I assume you are not a registered dietician. There is nothing about being a vegan that implies an "unbalanced" diet. My diet is extremely healthy and perfectly balanced. I eat better than 100% of the pregnant women I have known.

I just need to clear something up that has been worrying me. I had a friend tell me the other day that if I sleep on my right side while pregnant, as the baby gets bigger it makes it more possible for the baby to cut off blood flow to one of the main arteries which could potentially kill you. Is this true? I know I’ve heard that you can’t sleep flat on your back, and its best to sleep on your left side. Can somebody please clear this up for me?

when its taking 6 months or more how can you stop thinking about it?

Hi Ladies,

My little sister has got herself into a bloody mess! She had sex with some random guy on a night on and she didn’t use protection I asked her how many days ago she had her period and she said about 2 weeks ago! I’m so angry with her! She says he pulled out before he came.

This was last week so it’s too late for plan B, so how likely is it she can get pregnant with pre-cum?

Thanks Ladies!

xxx
Thanks Suze, I really do hope she isn’t! She’s usually such a responsible person but seems to be a bit self destructive at the moment hopefully this will be a wake up call for her!

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Thanks Michelle Hun, It will be more than a slap on the wrist lol! xx

my period starts at all different times, one month i wont get my period for 32 days the next month i wont get my period for 28 days its always different
so how can i tell when the best day is?

I am trying to have a baby with my husband. My periods are not regular. We have been married for 6 years this August, and been trying for 5. I have no why of have a gyn or anything like that. What do I do and how is the best way for me to know what to do (besides the known)(sex) to try to have a baby. Please help and give me any tips and hints or pointers.
but he dose not where a condom.