A friend of mine is going through fertility treatments. When and how to tell the boss?
Wednesday, March 31st, 2010 at
12:20 pm
The place where she works have some VERY nosy people (as does every other place in the world)and she chose to keep her relationship with her boyfriend private. They are planning on trying to get pregnant in Oct. He has a very low sperm count so will be using donor sperm. Once she becomes pregnant when and how should she to tell her boss? She gets a long really well with her boss. How should she tell the other ones she works with? I told her maybe sit everyone down one day and tell everyone at once. Thanks for any suggestions.
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When I was working I didn’t really get along with anyone there. We all just come into work got through the day and all went our seperate ways home.
Of course there were 2 or 3 that I was friends with but we wouldn’t get together every weekend or anything it was more coffee every second week.
I decided when I was pregnant with I would tell me boss when I was 12w (safe stage) and thats when the antenatal appointments start.
I decided not to tell anyone else except the people that I was close to.
My job didn’t involve any heavy lifting or anything that could jeopodise the pregnancy so I was safe.
People who didn’t know I was pregnant didn’t start to notice until I was about 28w along because that’s when I really started to show and not look "fat"
It’s personally upto your friend and when she feels comfortable to tell her boss.
If I was closer to my boss I would have told her as soon as I found out I was pregnant just as a precaution so if anything was to go wrong she knew exactally what was wrong and I didn’t have to explain myself so much.
She should just have a meeting with her boss and tell the boss that she’s pregnant and her boss will advise her on what the next step in. Weather she needs to put something in writting or anything.
Generally people will gossip so if she tells 1 person the office will know.
She could sit down with everyone, or write and email or get her boss to let everyone know.
I wouldn’t be saying too much to people around the place until she’s 12w along.
once she is pregnant she should tell her boss and co-workers but that’s all they need to know all the other details are between her and her boyfriend
She should tell her BOSS first, then others when SHE wants to. Her boss may be PO’d if he/she hears it the same time (or after) everyone else. Besides her boss is the only one that really NEEDS to know (until it’s obvious of course).
Well, having just went thru what your friend is going thru, I suggest waiting until she is pregnant and after she hits the 3 months mark. I have been going thru fertility treatments and I made the mistake of telling my boss. She managed to tell everyone I was pregnant, before I even got the chance to share the news. Unfortunatley I lost the pregnancy in Jan. Now I am wishing I never would have said a thing. Don’t get me wrong, my boss was nice and let me off work for a week to deal with the loss of pregnany, but I would have rathered nobody known at all. I am now starting treatments all over and I have already made up my mind I am not telling anyone except for my husband. This way if something happens I dont’ have to go back and tell everyone I lost it. That was the hardest thing I think I have ever had to do. Tell your friend good luck.