How can I get my 24 year old pregnant girlfriend to get a job?
Friday, November 27th, 2009 at
9:56 am
I work, and I’m about to get a second job. But she has no intention of getting one. She just quit a salon and doesn’t think anyone will hire her since she is pregnant. She is 4 months pregnant and every time I bring up the subject she goes nuts and doesn’t want to talk about it. She says she feels crappy and tired all the time. I’m lost and I don’t know what to do. And she has a big car payment.
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Can she go back to the salon she was at, maybe even part-time? I’ve been a hairstylist for 8 years, and honestly, we’ve hired girls that were pregnant. As long as they were good stylists. Getting a job in a salon is not very hard when your pregnant. Trust me, I’ve been doing hair long enough to know. Sounds like she just doesnt want to work. I worked up until the day I gave birth, it can be hard being on your feet allday, but she could go part-time. What about doing hair on the side???Most women work up until 7,8, or 9 months pregnant. If she refuses, then sell the car. When you have a baby you have to make certain sacrifices, especially when your were counting on 2 incomes. Just tell her. "You know what, if your not going to work, then we are selling the car for something cheaper so we can make ends meet" . Shes going to have to learn to give things up now. Its all about that baby now. I know its not easy. Im a single Mom so I had no choice but to work. Its sad to say but its hard to make it in this world, she needs to realize if your having trouble now, its only going to be harder when the baby is here. GOOD LUCK!!! BEST WISHES!!
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It is ALOT harder to get a job when you’re pregnant. Maybe suggest a part time job until the baby comes?
Let her deliver and then tell her to go back to job.
You should allow her to take rest. Baby is a big responsibility. I hope baby is a wanted and a planned one.
I got a job at 6 months pregnant. Legally you do not have to let your employer know that you are pregnant during an interview. I too have a car note and I def. wasn’t expecting it to get paid on it’s own, my husband and I got enough bills together. I think if the doctor doesn’t find her at any risks than she should get a job and help out..pregnancy is not an excuse to sit at home..thumbs down me if you want ppl..
I really wish that guys could feel what it’s like to be pregnant. Let her car go back though. Or sell it. I’m sure you can’t afford it.
Let her know it will be worst after the baby comes and maybe her getting a job and saving money will help and maybe she should look into trading in her car since she has no way of paying for it. Can she do what she did in the salon in your home? have her start being her own boss.
Well you tell her work part time or go thru a temp agency or her car will be put up for sale. or reposessed!
It’s hard to get anyone to hire you when you are pregnant. She probably does feel crappy and you should try to understand that and be more supportive. You may have to pull the weight for both of you until she has the baby. But even then she will not feel like working for a few weeks.
I feel her pain, but I also feel your. I am pregnant and suppport my husband who is a full time student. You should suggest a job where she wouldn’t have to do much. Like a receptionist job. That way she wouldn’t have to be on her feet all day. I work in a solon too and it is hard to work in one when you are prenant. the smells make you really sick. Sorry about your problem I can compare to bopth sides and they both suck!
millions of women work pregnant and millions of women get jobs while pregnant. She is being hormonal right now and you have to proceed lightly. Tell her that you love her and your child; however, you can’t do this alone. You need her help financially otherwise your family won’t have all the things you need. Especially considering that you cannot make ends meet now and you have so many upcoming expenses. Diapers, bottles, wipes, formula, etc. that adds up big time!!!!
maybe you need to explain to her that she has a big car payment and that you would appreciate it if she helped out a little. explain to her that if someone doesn’t hire her because she is pregnant, that is descrimination, and they can lose thier buisness license for doing that. Just tell her that if you work two jobs to pay for her car that you won’t have time for her or the baby and you want to be able to be there for her as much as you can, but you can’t do that workin’ all the time.
first you marry her.. That will shut her up for a while.
Then you recognize that she may really feel like sh*t.
Sell her car, purchase a safe used car for local travel.
Then accept the fact that for the next few yrs, you will be working around the clock. I have had as many as four jobs at one time… Good luck, and treat her with respect… even when she isn’t being respectful to you… She is the mother of your child..
Keep your head up!
Unfortunately, she will face discrimination when applying for employment as companies don’t want to pay out her maternity, etc. Most women go on maternity leave 7-8 months in, so she would only have about 3-4 months left to work really.
Since the holidays are upon us, she may be able to find a job as a temporary employee for the holiday season.
Keep in mind, she may feel nausea, like she’s going to throw up, and standing on her feet for long hours may cause her feet and ankles to swell, sometimes severely.
Unfortunately, a baby can make a woman feel incredibly bad, so definitely try to understand her side of it. You may be able to encourage her, by picking out one of her fav shops and telling her that maybe she could apply to help out there once or twice a week for the holidays. Pregnant women aren’t always rational, due to the hormones, so make sure you keep telling her that you understand. Don’t get confrontational with her.
Say that with the extra money, you two could go baby shopping and pick out a few extra cute things for the baby’s room. Good luck.
Give her a few more weeks, she may feel better then. Usually morning sickness nausea, and other symptoms taper off and prego women start to feel better. Then maybe she can get something part-time, at least enough to pay for her car.
So how did she get pregnant? You are just as responsinble for this baby as she is. If you don’t want to be a parent you need to be more careful. Telling a pregnant woman she has to work is no way to build a relationship. Now that she’s pregnant, you will have to shoulder more financial responsibility.
maybe she is feeling anxious and worried about having a baby. Maybe she wishes she could be a stay at home mother, and knows she can’t afford it.
Try talking to her in a calm, loving way. Assure her that you want things to be as easy on her as possible. I’d suggest a sitting down job, if possible. Standing during pregnancy is NO FUN!
Good luck!
I don’t know how she feels, I know being pregnant isn’t just another day you have hormones that are fighting with each other, it’s a crazy thing what a woman’s body can do. So maybe if you aren’t really being sympathetic about it you are more than likely not going to get her to see your side of it, just approach her nicely ask her nicely what she would like to do, give her some options, let the car go back and get another one when she can start working or work at a mothers day out, or have her look at some temp agencies it doesn’t have to be permanent, just let her know that you understand that she feels different and let her decide. I will pray for y’all.
she probably does feel a littl crappy
she probably is tired.. she is the energy supplier for TWO lives right now…
maybe she needs to downgrade her vehicle..
if she doesnt want to work pregnant and you are able to work two jobs idk what the probelm is…… she is best at raising that baby to birth when she is comfortable and feeling loved and supported.. a lot of jobs dont want to hire pregnant women knowing as soon as she leaves they may have to train someone else anyway..
a friend of mine works the flea market 3 days a week… just selling odds and ins and makes about 1600 a month which she relys on to pay her rent
maybe she sews and she could try that…
or she could find a sales/marketing job from home………. you could help her set up to sell things onlinee…. just try to help her get started
btw– when i was pregnant and i saw money getting tight i started training for a hha job and every day on my way to work- i was throwing up- on the train, on my way home from work, at work. i was not a high risk pregnancy or anything.. just wiped out by the process