how do i get over my pregnant ex gf ?
Friday, September 3rd, 2010 at
5:01 am
with out "sleeping with the next one"… im in love with her, i want to be there 4 her. we wer careless and got pregnant, she never wanted anything seroius. i will be there 4 my chjild, but i just need help getting over her. she dosnt want to work things out. i agree with her, that a aby shouldnt be reason enough to force a commitment out of her, she clearly dosnt want it.. please any advice on how to move on from her?
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Sometimes the most important relationship requiring rescuing is the one within ourselves. The grieving process isn’t universal, we all travel at different paces, but remember this process isn’t your destination, acceptance and happiness are. Understand you wont be here forever and the first step is accepting this. Every long journey begins with a single step and every journey continues so long as you place one small step in front of the other. Focus on little progressions rather than wallowing and wondering when this pain will be over; it will be eventually and I promise, but for now focus on what you can do.
You need to first Identify your conscious and ask yourself whether you’re trying to move on or hoping the two of you will be together again. Unfortunately, your journey will never truly begin until you have accepted the ending of your relationship. I know it stings, but you absolutely need to accept this. Clinging on false hopes will only stagnate your well-deserved happiness and loving.
Secondly, express yourself healthily but avoid being overwhelmed; be mad, be angry, sometimes we can’t get over a situation without hearing ourselves. Don’t worry about releasing anything to your ex because it’ll only complicate things. FEEL these feelings instead of bottling them so you’re friendly with the most critical and important person out there; yourself.
Heal your heart. No matter what was done, dwelling on hatred for your ex will only remind you of the upsetting feelings you endured. Showing mercy means showing true love and moving past the hurt will help you focus on learning how to love again. You certainly may never like the past, but forgive it so you’re able to move forward again. I think you deserve that much.
Make a plan. Form a plan so you’re able to deal with certain stray emotions. When you’re angry, find something to occupy your mind. When you’re sad, find a way to venture off somewhere else where it isn’t as upsetting. When you’re confused, get your mind in the right place. Whenever these emotions arise, consult your plan and follow it.
Avoid predetermining your fate. Don’t tell yourself this person was “the one,” because if they were it would have worked out. You will find someone who loves you, you will find someone who is there through thick and thin, and you will find someone absolutely breathtaking. The relationship was a learning experience and a stepping stone towards someone new and more exciting. There are literally thousands we can connect to, who can treat us amazingly, and most importantly loving us right. All you need is one, and I assure you you’ll find that person. This world is too big not to.
Start rebuilding your life and relearning yourself. Keep your head up and smile whenever you can because the time you’re spending being sad could be used finding the love of your life. Find a new hobby and do things you never would have dreamed doing. Remember, you’re doing this for yourself because you deserve being happy again. Reach out to those around you and let them know what you’re going through. A little help with those who inspire us not only helps occupy our mind, but reminds us that there are plenty of people who’d love to keep our spirits alive, and more importantly it reminds us some people will be here forever;you’ll learn to love again.
In order to love again, we need to love ourselves. YOU have control over yourself and no one else. If you’re down in the dumps, call a friend. Avoid isolation because you’ll only dwell on a past you’ve since been trying to move forward from. Remember, there are over six billion people out there whom you’ve never met. Plenty of wonderful and beautiful people have gone through similar tragedies and many would love to have someone like yourself in their lives. Go out there and find new people, explore new things, and do thing you never thought were possible. This is a new chapter in your life and YOU’RE writing the story, however I’ve read your story. I’ll give you a hint: It has a happy ending.