How to get my husband to grow up??!!?
Me and my husband have been together for 8 years, married for 3 and are expecting our first child in 2 months. I must say first that we do really have a great relationship. We have been best friends long before we got together. During our lives we have partied together quite a bit and had a great time hanging out with friends at bars and such, Before we where even pregnant which was planned, I started to want to slow down a bit, he always agreed with me in conversation but NEVER really followed through. We have had our fair share of him not coming home from work and going out to the bar and ignoring my phone calls. After always saying that he knows how disrespectful this is and needs to change his ways if we are going to start a family..bla, bla, bla. So I got pregnant, quit smoking day 1! Husband said oh, monday I quit…After my birthday! No more drinking and smoking. After , after, after. Nothing! Also, sidebar, my husbands father was an alcoholic and killed himself when my husband was 18 years old. So my husband always has said he doesn’t want to be like his father, he wants to be a good dad and husband. But it is like one step forward and 2 steps back!! I love him so much, but it just infuriates me that he cannot get on the same page as me, we are about to bring a new life in this world and I need him to man up! Any suggestions??
Um, I do tell him, all the time. Really, only answer if you have some worth while advice please. And also any guys point of view would be great! Thanks
Wow, Sean, your obviously alone or with some piece of sh** white trash. Good luck to ya.
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for some people it takes a lot for them to change, i’m in the process right now, my dad was an alcoholic and died as a result, last year one of my closest friends died in a alcohol related crash, and 2 days ago another friend died in a alcohol related accident. that’s what i took my to realize it isn’t worth it, 3 people dying, it’s a shame but it’s reality, people don’t realize how severe things can be until it’s too late. i’m 24 and don’t think i can have another drink again.
Tell HIM not some random people on the internet. You should really express to him how you feel. Maybe he is just trying to get this crap out of his system before the baby comes. You really won’t know until you have a heart to heart with him.
Quit your bitching.
That’s a good start.
See a man needs to feel wanted, cherished and respected. When you shit-pick at him, he loses the desire to be with you. If you’re not careful, he’ll eventually check out of the relationship and seek someone new who will give him what he needs.
So shut the fuck up and get back in the kitchen!
Make him a sandwich, bring him a beer. Keep his tummy full and his balls empty. It’s really that simple. He’ll build you a house!
You need to go to a marriage counselor. If your husband is serious, and he probably is, about not wanting to end up like his father you both need to sit down and talk things out with a third, objective party. I’ve been married 21 years and my husband and I have been several times when we just couldn’t solve problems on our own. Somehow, when a professional who only wants to help you strengthen your marriage, talks you tend to listen ………. even though they may very well be saying things you’ve heard many times from your spouse. He probably tuned you out long ago, but when he’s with you in counseling it will dawn on him that you’re really serious and he’s got to get serious too. You have absolutely nothing to lose and everything to gain so get on the phone and make an appointment.
If he smokes around you or in the house its a problem. Its also problem if he is gone out partying all the time.
However the occasional going out with friends is no problem as long as he calls first. If he is gone all the time, remind him he has duties, if he is gone occasionally, quityerbitching.
I agree with the counseling. You want to have a good start with your family. And it sounds like he is willing to make some changes , just needs a little direction about how to do it! Hopefully you bringing up counseling will show him how serious you are about it and he will go with you. Good luck to you! Maybe all it will take is him meeting his precious child! Babies are a blessing!