I want to get pregnant, my husband doesn't?
Thursday, August 26th, 2010 at
12:19 pm
I want to get pregnant, but my husband doesn’t. We have been married for 2 and half years. I’m not trying to rush into having kids, I am just ready. He is in the military, and we agreed that me being pregnant while he deployed is a good time. I will be close to my family for support. He says that he will not miss not being here while I am pregnant. He doesn’t even like to talk about this topic, and ignores me when I bring it up. How can I get him to agree to "knock me up" without forcing it on him? and why is this such an issue for him to discuss it?
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Look hun, my husband is in the military and being pregnant while he is deployed is the WORST time you could be pregant. My husband is overseas right now and I’ve been so lonely and depressed with him gone, not to mention a nervous wreck that he wont make it back to the birth. But anyway, thats an entirely different topic; in short, you need your partner around while you are pregnant, pregnancy is a vulnerable time and you will wish you had his support.
If he is not ready for a baby then you need to wait, there is no convincing him and he has to be ready. My husband wanted a child finally after 3 years (I had a kid from a previous relationship and she is 4 1/2 now) but I’ve been married to my husband over 3 years before he was ready to try for a baby. Give it some time, if too much time goes by, like longer than a year or two, then you may want to reevaluate your marriage since you both clearly want different things and that is not healthy.
My ( now ex ) wife and I had a child before I was ready and it ended up ruining our relationship. It seems to me that you will not get him to agree at the moment, and to persist could have a very negative affect.
Perhaps he just enjoys having you all to himself when you are together. Having a child changes everything. Stupid as it may seem, men can be very jealous of newborns.
You have to ask yourself if having a child is more important than your marriage.
Just my opinion.
I think you need to have a serious heart to heart with him, tell him how much you would like a child and ask him whats putting him of the idea. Whatever you do don’t get pregnant without him being in agreeance because he will really resent you taking the decision out of his hands. If he avoids your questions maybe there is some other reason he doesn’t what a child