Second time pregnant….feeling more worried and confused than the first time! HELP!?
I am 11 weeks pregnant with my second baby. We planned to get pregnant and I remember being SOOOO happy about the thought of a new baby…not I am getting into the pregnancy I am forgetting why I was excited. Is this normal? I feel anxious about problems with the baby, I am more worried about giving birth (as I had a natural birth first time with no tearing or any sort of complication I feel apprehensive about it second time round….I cant be so lucky twice can I?) Also, being pregnant and being a mother is taking its toll, my daughter is 19 months and I cant keep up with her, the house, my job, my husband….and a social life is defiantly out of the question. I have started feeling depressed that my wonderful second baby is going to ruin my life and I will never have time to be me again. I have also started getting panicked in public, I walk to work every morning (a 40 min walk) and for the last 4 months it has been dark and I have seen barely any people, this week it has been light again and I have felt panicked and breathless walking to work. Does anyone have any advice of how to cope with pregnancy, parenthood and all the rest in between? Not to mention that I have horrendous morning sickness, nausea and unbearably painful aches all over my body!
sorry if its long…..its just been one of those days and I needed to say everything thats on here…get it out my system so to speak!
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Just relax! You did this before and you can do it again! A baby is difficult (you have a 19 month old, so you know this!), but will not ruin your life! It will make things hard, of course, but it is worth it.
Talk to your husband about your feelings. Let him be there for you. Let him help you out. If you need help around the house, or with your daughter, don’t be afraid to ask. Don’t let yourself get overwhelmed (remember, the housework can always wait until tomorrow! LOL!)
It is normal to have anxiety about your pregnancy, delivery, and after the baby is born. I did it with all three of mine! I found myself worrying throughout the whole pregnancy, being scared of labor even though I had done it twice before, and wondering "How am I ever going to do this?" We have three children now (8, 3, and 3 months) and I’m not going to lie….It’s VERY difficult. Our lives have changed a lot, and we stay at home a lot more now. But each of my kids is totally worth it to me.
So just relax. If you have any pregnancy concerns, talk to your doctor. Talk to your husband about your fears. And remember……soon you will have a beautiful baby who will love you unconditionally. That in itself is the ultimate reward! Good luck!
Ahhhh hormones…. They suck.
This baby is planned and what you describe is soooo normal. I felt it too. OMG! And ouch. And I wanna a drink! And how will I cope.
Then the baby comes and it all goes out the window. You will be fine! It is simply one of those days. Make yourself a lovely warm drink, get into some comfy clothes and watch trashy TV or a bad movie.
(with your toddler, ask for a day off here and there with family or even a nursery)
You’ll feel better
XX
i have one child and i was petrified about the hole lot especially the birth everyday i had morning sickness sometimes 3 times a day right up until 10 minutes before i had my son, i had no pain relief prob like yourself and yes it was very painful and i had serious tears down below and from the first twinge i felt to actually pushing him out lasted 1hr and 20 minutes so if i was to get pregnant again id feel all the same things you are right now, iv been told by midwives i wouldnt have time second time round to make it to any hospital, i dont see my friends anymore i speak with them on phone maybe once a month, its been a year since i actually saw one of them.my toddler is 2.5yr now and im really down in myself, on a scale of 1-10 of unhappiness id say 8. dont think my fiance or family are aware of how much i feel down, I would also have a big fear that another baby would turn out like the first. from birth to 1yr my son was waking and crying every HALF hour. from 1-2yr it was 4-7 times during night. still not great now but better. only suggestions i have for you would be if your husband or family where to mind the kids for you at least one evening say every forthnight so you can see friends, its really important you have a social life of some sort, if things are getting on top of you try sitting hubby down and telling him you need more of his help say around the home.